Sunday, 19 November 2017

7 Lessons I Have Learned About Love & Relationships

These are not lessons I read from a book. It’s wisdom I have acquired through blood and tears. Those I applied brought me joy. Those I broke, broke my heart. And those who broke them against me, I’m still trying to forgive. Lol. Just kidding. On a serious note, love is no joke at all. It is a call to the highest level of character and selflessness that oftentimes many of us fall short of. I am persuaded these 7 lessons will serve you in your quest to become a better lover.

1. Often we fall in love with haste. But it takes patience to stay in love. Men especially must learn that it takes infinite patience to love a woman.
2. As soon as a partner begins to introduce threats, conditions, ultimatums in a relationship, it is the beginning of the end. Love is unconditional. If you cannot genuinely love a person whilst praying that they improve in one area or the other, don’t waste their time.
3. Pride is the greatest obstacle to love. Pride is what causes unforgiveness. It stops you from admitting you are wrong. It never says im sorry.
4. No matter what else you do, if you are always complaining or criticizing your partner, they never feel truly loved. It tells them you think they are not good enough.
5. Nothing makes a man feel loved more than respect. Nothing makes him feel threatened than disrespect. People say men don’t like strong women. No. Men don’t like disrespectful women. You can be strong without being disrespectful.
6. Selfish people cannot love. If you are constantly demanding for things without giving back, it kills love. The other person feels used not loved.
7. Lying weakens relationships. Lies, no matter how small, create doubts in the heart of your partner. They begin to second-guess everything you tell them and sometimes the relationship never recovers.

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  • I’ve the SEVEN LESSONS dat u’ve learned abt LOVE and RELATIONSHIP wit great gusto and it was extremely insightful..

    However, I was eargerly anticipating to read something about COMMUNICATION which I believe is one of the most significant elements which has the tendency to ‘make and unmake’ any kind of love and relationship.

    Recently, I read a story on myjoyonline about how the marriage between Nat Brew and Akosua Adjapong ended up in a smoke mainly because of “ten days” of non-communication between the partners when the former traveled to abroad.

    Though I cannot tell as a matter of that their separation was due to their inability to communicate wit each other, one cannot rule out significance of communication in love and relationship.

    To build and maintain a robust and lasting relationship and love one must not only communicate but must also communicate rather effectively…. I think.

  • Hello Harrison. Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment. It is important to reiterate that no single article can extensively dissect the subject of love and relationships. As a matter of fact, no book can. Each person or contributor on the subject only shares a perspective of this often mysterious concept called love. Furthermore, this article is an extraction of lessons from the author’s own experience. Communication did not feature here because he or his partner(s) did not encounter that problem. However, your concerns are duly noted. I’m persuaded that in the near future an article of that nature may arise to speak to the all-important subject of communication.

  • Thank you for this piece Jeremiah. These are nice nuggets of wisdom. I will employ them in my relationship with people.

  • That is a great submission. I wish much success in your subsequent works….I will surely deploy this in my relationship….God bless you..## full support##

  • Thanks for the pearls of wisdom Jeremiah,all you have stated is very True! Many people do not realise how much really goes into making a relationship work…

  • These stuff are true and facts. If only we can understand that love is unconditional and it comes with two legs, but the right one is shown first and along the way the left(what I called shocksprices) one appears. There will always be left leg appearances in everything and not just relationships.
    Loving someones is a hard and a very difficult thing to do. Most of us claimed we love God but will we stand it when we are put to the test? It is the same way in love relationship. Nevertheless, love is such a beautiful

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